Premature ejaculation (PE),
which is often referred to as early ejaculation, is the most common
sexual problem facing men under 40. While it’s important to understand
the physical and emotional causes of PE, it might appeal to the male
'fix-it' nature instead, to suggest certain techniques known to slow or
stop PE.
Here are seven of the most effective tools.
Deep Breathing
Deep
breathing is a form of meditation that can sometimes help control the
arousal and tension that lead to early ejaculation. Try to see if he can
avoid shallow, short breathing, which speeds up his heartbeat and can
trigger quick ejaculation. Try to get him to spend five seconds
breathing in one deep, full breath, hold it for about three seconds, and
then exhale for five seconds.
If he can do this
for about five minutes without breaking the rhythm, he may be able to
use it in the bedroom. Plus, focusing on each other’s breathing, and how
it rises and falls, can build an intimate connection.
The Stop-and-Start Method
This
begins as a solo exercise which begins with foreplay. You can help your
man to masturbate without coming inside you. After relaxing, he should
continue bringing himself closer and closer to orgasm until he can’t
hold it any longer. Doing this several times by himself without
distraction will help him learn where his point of no return is. When he
feels that he has mastered the technique, the two of you should engage
in sexual activity that stops short of intercourse.
The Squeeze Method
This
method requires one of you to squeeze the base of the penis at the same
point that the stop-and-start technique would be used, when he is at
the brink of orgasm. The idea is to reduce your partner's erection
through squeezing. Just as with the stop-and-start method, your partner
should do it on his own first, master it, and then invite you to
practice the technique with him.
Kegel Exercises
Kegels
aren’t just for women alone. There’s no better method to strengthen the
pelvic region than to create a strong pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle),
which can help control ejaculation.
The easiest
way for him to find this muscle is to see if he can stop the flow of
urine when he goes to the bathroom. It’s the PC muscle that he uses to
do that. Once he finds it, he needs to practice feeling exactly where it
is located and make sure he engages it, rather than using his
abdominals, buttocks, or thighs.
To do Kegels, he
will quickly clench and release the PC muscle repeatedly for ten
seconds. He should do three sets, with a ten-second break between sets.
If he contracts his PC muscle when he’s close to orgasm, he should be
able to slow things down.
Tantric Techniques
Sex
that is truly explorative, is more than just traditional physical
pleasure. Try using the tantric techniques of establishing an intimate
connection, including when he’s nearing the point of no return. When he
approaches that point, he should cease stimulation, that is, pull out,
then contract the PC muscle and lower his chin to his chest. This is
important as it prevents energy from rising too high and making him feel
ungrounded. He should then draw in a breath, feeling the warmth of
sexual energy rise upwards in his body. Repeat this as needed, until the
desire to release is no longer urgent.
Condoms With Benzocaine
The
results vary, but climax-control condoms can extend sexual activity and
delay a male’s climax as long as five minutes. These condoms have
benzocaine in the tip; it’s a mild anesthetic with a slight numbing
effect, so it can help to decrease his sexual sensation and bring his
sexual response down to a more manageable level. And while he doesn’t
need the protective benefits of a condom during masturbation, he can try
using the condoms in a solo session to see if they help to prolong and
control his excitement.
Promescent
Promescent
is a topical medication that is applied to the penis ten minutes before
sexual activity, and it helps a man to better manage the sensations of
sex through desensitization. However, unlike other topical medications
for early ejaculation, Promescent absorbs below the skin where the nerve
endings that control ejaculation are located.
A
man receives only the dosage needed to control his ejaculation while
still allowing him to enjoy the sensations of sex, and since it is
absorbed into the skin, it will not negatively impact his partner’s
sensations.
You can also try:
Medical Options
Even
though your partner may not be depressed, the SSRI, (that is selective
serotonin reuptake inhibitor), family of antidepressants, including
drugs such as Prozac and Zoloft, may help his EE. The drugs can be taken
several hours before sexual activity, and since they inhibit arousal,
they can help make it easier for a man to control ejaculation.
Before
he makes a decision regarding these drugs however, he will need to see
either his doctor or a urologist; he should also ask about and keep in
mind the side effects of SSRIs.
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